Free confidence booster tool

Posted on August 23, 2017August 23, 2017 by Kay Walker

How to get confident on demand

The most powerful people in the world lose their ability to feel confident at times. Anyone who is human and has a pulse has moments where they don’t feel self-assured. This is a guarantee.

Even someone as calm and collected as Oprah Winfrey admittedly mentioned on one of the old episodes of her show that, when she is nervous to meet someone “important” she would remind herself “he poops too”.

I always remember this and laugh. It helps shift the context of the situation from “this person is important and I’m not on their level” to “we are both humans with the same insecurities and struggles”.

Ah, so true.

Confident people have learned to get there quickly

For many of the people you look up to and see as incredibly confident, you’d never know when they are struggling. This is because they’ve trained themselves to deal with it quickly so it doesn’t get in the way. Moments where they lack confidence only last a few seconds.

You’re no different. (Remember, you poop you!). You can learn to do the same.

And, I’ve developed a simple confidence booster tool that will make it easy for you. You’ll find it below. It’s a technique I’ve designed for you to use to become confident on-demand in moments where you lose this ability. Use it anytime, anywhere.

But before I share the tool, I want to a share a quick story about my No.1 lack of confidence trigger. It’s what prompted me to come up with this tactic. Maybe you can relate?

What triggers a lack of confidence

When I am interacting with a group of people where it really matters to me that they like me I get freakin’ nervous.

Groups like my neighbors, for example. They live near me and it matters to me that they like me and include me.

I don’t feel this way when I meet groups of people I may never see again, such as at a networking event. In those moments, I take on a “I have nothing to lose attitude”. You don’t like me? I’ll never see you again. It’s cool.

So, it’s when I see the relationship as one that matters that I get all stressed about it. When I don’t deal with my lack of confidence, parts of me that I don’t like can come out. I either:

Feel a need to “prove myself” by showing how great I am in a bragging about accomplishment type way, or most often
Get quiet and I don’t share myself. This usually happens if I pick up on a body language cue from someone who I don’t think likes me and then make up that they don’t and take on a “screw you, I’m awesome I don’t need you attitude”.

In these moments, I forget who I am. And, it’s annoying to me that I tend to shut down. Or act not like myself.

Most people have similar protective reflexes when interacting with people they care like them.

Why people lose confidence in groups

No one wants to be ostracized. It’s built into our biology. Our ancestors didn’t survive when they were excluded from the pack. Which is why a lot of people lose their confidence in groups. (And also why public speaking is the No.1 fear in the world).

This confidence killer is particularly bad for me. When I was a kid I was overweight. A lot of the kids at school and family members made me feel like I wasn’t good enough because I was a bigger girl. I never felt accepted when I was just being me.

I mention this because all of us start to build a self concept of who we are around 8-10. Whatever challenges we have around that time come to define our natural tendencies in adulthood. These become unconscious and automatic. Many people aren’t aware of why they are doing something. If you identify a behavior in yourself you don’t like you will likely be able to trace it back to a moment that happened during this time period of your development.

So, while I’ve worked incredibly hard at loving myself and being with people as I’ve grown into an adult, my early abuse from people still triggers me and tries to take me out.

It happened to me not long ago when I was about to attend an event with some “influential people” in my city. I wanted to show up as confident. As me without nerves getting in the way. But the entire day I was feeling stressed.

To deal with these annoying nerves I had a conversation with my personal development coach, Robin H-C. She asked me how would I like to be at the event?

I said: “Like my husband”.

“But really. He’s incredible with people. And he doesn’t care what anyone thinks of him because he is settled in who he is. He barely thinks about what he’s going to wear, and walks into the room like a rockstar. And everyone loves him.”

Her coaching was to ask him about what he feels when he goes to an event like the one I was attending.

So I did, and what I learned from him made me realize: That in the moments where I lose my confidence, it’s simply because I forget who I am.

You see, my husband, wears his awesomeness on him. He can’t not. He’s worked very hard to accomplish major things in life – five books, a tv host, a successful entrepreneur, created a successful national charity. And it’s not about the accomplishments, it’s about what he’s done that’s proved to himself how powerful he is. It’s hard for him to forget how awesome he is because he can just remind himself of what he’s done.

Other people may not have written books or been tv hosts but we’ve done things like raise kids and finish school. These accomplishments way not look as sexy but they are.

It’s important to wear your awesomeness on you. When you do, you will be confident all the time. When you lost confidence you can get it on demand by reminding yourself how great you are – even if you don’t think you are.

Noticing that what was at the core of my lack of confidence – and it’s true for all people – was a lack in my own abilities. So, I created a reminder tool I call the “Awesome you list”.

Here is how to use this confidence booster tool

Here’s what to do and how to use it:

In a moment where you are alone and feeling good and confident create a list that you can access when you need it to boost your self confidence.

You have to do it when you are feeling good so you can be prepared when lack of confidence comes up at a future moment.

Describe why you are awesome. Write down your achievements and accomplishments, the people in your life who love you and why.

Then, in any moment where you lose your confidence, quickly take a few moments to read the list. Get present to it. It will allow you shift context and be able to take on any moment.

I’ve created a simple script with examples that will help you build yours.

If it seems silly or stupid, I urge you to put those thoughts away and try this. Build your list today and when a moment where you lack confidence shows up you’ll be able to regain composure in minutes.

Keep in mind: If you have trouble building an “Awesome You list” you may have another issue. You might have a problem loving and appreciating yourself. You have trouble letting love in. This will cause issues for you all over your life. There is additional work you can do to become more loving with yourself.

You can also get someone to help you build your Awesome You list sing this confidence booster tool. It’s about pumping you up and celebrating your victories. If you can see them clearly, someone in your life can.

Feeling lost in your 20s? You can free yourself quickly

Posted on August 23, 2017September 19, 2017 by Kay Walker

Feeling lost in your 20s? You can free yourself quickly and maybe quicker than you think. The tips below may inspire you to take some new actions so you can get yourself to a place of feeling better fast.

Feeling lost in your 20s is kind of normal

Feeling lost in your 20s is (unfortunately) part of the process

If you’re feeling lost you might be feeling embarrassed about it, or like you’re being ridiculous. Aren’t the 20s supposed to be some of the best years of your life? You’ve got a bright future ahead of you. You’ve got your youth. And most 20-year olds are also in great physical health. You should be feeling grateful and excited not feeling lost. Right?

The answer to that is: NO! Feeling lost in your 20s is part of the process. You’re still figuring your life out. Most 20-year olds don’t have it all together. Most have bouts of uncertainty about their direction in life. Take a moment to tell yourself to breathe and chill out. It’s okay to be feeling lost in your 20s. It’s also not that hard to find yourself again.

Here’s why you are feeling lost in your 20s…

Statistically, the occurrence of feeling lost in your 20s is growing rapidly. This is due to a variety of factors but the biggest reason is the Internet. It has changed the way people live and work globally. It’s opened up so many pathways of opportunity. If you’re in you’re 20s your bound to be confused and more than previous generations were.

You’d think having more options would be a good think. You’d think it would give you freedom but that’s not true. Options complicate things. Too much information coming at you warps your energy. It makes you confused. This is why feeling lost in your 20s is a growing experience. There’s a name for it: The Quarter Life Crisis. And you can experience a quarter life crisis anywhere form 20-40 and multiple times!

Feeling lost in your 20s can feel isolating because you think you shouldn’t feel that way. Most people don’t share openly about feeling lost which is why it’s not often talked about. But feeling lost is 100% normal. So take that too heart. It might help to remember that you’re not alone.

How to free yourself when you’re feeling lost in your 20s….

Accept the process

The first thing to do when you’re feeling lost in your 20s is to accept that feeling lost happens. It’s happening to you now. It will likely happen again. Periods of feeling lost is a human experience. Life is not perfect. There are ebbs and flow to the journey. When you’re lost, simply consider that you’re in an ebb period and you’re on your way to clarity. It will come. This time will pass. The way you feel will pass. It’s inevitable.

After you normalize what you’re going through by owning that this is part of the process for everyone then you can take some actions to feel better as soon as possible, gain clarity and jump back into action.

Ask yourself these questions…

It might be time for you to ask yourself some deeper questions about your role in this world and what you want to do with your life. When you answer these questions it will help you formulate future you’d like to see yourself achieve. When you decide what you want and you begin taking action you’ll feel much better. The questions to ask yourself when you’re feeling lost in your 20s are:

1) What do you want your life to be about?

2) What you want to contribute to this world?

3) What do you want to experience in life?

These are the questions to start to consider. You may have some answers. Or you may not. It doesn’t matter whether you have answers or not. What matters is that you start to think and get curious about these things. Start exploring and researching options conceptually. Start visualizing your future and thinking about what you’d like it to contain.

What do you love to do now?

What are you passionate about?

Answer these questions and start taking actions in that direction. Let your passions, your heart, your deep desires lead you and figure out how to fit the rational pieces in. For instance, if you want to be a musician go be a musician! But if you also want to make money figure out how to combine those two things. The easiest way is to find someone who is doing what you want to do. Start learning, start modeling them. It’s definitely a place to start. But remember: Passion first, logistics second.

Do lots of different things

Explore. Dip your toe in new experiences. Think about what you’d like to do and try. Then, take ACTION. Go try them. Test the waters. The sooner you are able to discern what you want and don’t want the sooner you’ll see a clear path. Don’t stay in your box. Get outside yourself! You’re options are limited by what you know. And so, be in the pursuit of gaining new knowledge. It will give you an edge. It will help you see the direction you want to go in.

Go to work on you

In a world that conditions us that success is about external validation, the best thing you can do at this time in your life is go to work on you. Learn how to communicate like a master. Discover how to become influential. Learn how to control your emotions. This is what truly gives you the power in life to do anything.

Emotional intelligence training – focusing on building your personal skills of thinking and communication – will allow you to achieve anything you want. When you work on your own personal power you take that power everywhere you go. You experience a new way of living. You learn what success really is.

Tap into the resources around you, seek out new ones. Learn how to generate ideas. Discover how make money from ideas (aka build businesses)

And then, learn how to shift your emotions so when you feel bad you can flip the switch to feeling good. It’s powerful and it will give you strength when you are confused and feeling lost in your 20s.

You can start now. Start here. Go read some articles or grab so free personal development tools. If you want more info on quarter life crisis, grab this: Quarter Life Crisis ebook – free copy

Feeling lost and lonely? Here’s what to do about it…

Posted on August 22, 2017August 13, 2021 by Kay Walker

At one point in your life, you will find yourself feeling lost and lonely. You won’t know what to do and it will feel excruciatingly miserable. It feels terrible because happiness is linked to making progress. You feel great when you’re moving in a forward direction towards what you’d like to achieve in your life. When you’re not, it’s mentally agonizing. Feeling lonely, as well, only makes it worse.

And of course, feeling lost and lonely is usually a matched set. This is because no one wants to talk openly about it. It’s common to share about your triumphs when life is great. But, when life is directionless the inclination is to hide how you feel (and hide from people) until you sort it out.

If you’re suffering in silence and googling for clarity, this article will provide you some immediate relief.

Here’s a step by step method to your way back…

Surrender to how you feel

When you feel lost you can be damn sure you’ll do your best to think your way out of it. You’ll immediately start asking yourself why you feel the way you do . You’ll come up with reasons to validate why. Then, you’ll start trying to figure out what you need to do to feel better and gain some traction in life.

But here’s the kicker about feeling lost: Sometimes you know WHY you feel the way you do. And, you’ll have some ideas of WHAT to do, but you can still feel foggy and unclear. You’ll still find yourself grappling and you will still feel confused and uncertain about what to do.

The first thing to do is accept where you’re at. Accept the uncomfortable feelings and thoughts your having. Surrender to this moment in your life. Stop fighting it. Stop trying to figure things out. Just do your best to BE with the way things are, without the need to fix it.

Relinquish control and get immediate peace

When you force change to occur, you’ll create resistance. If you have thoughts like “I shouldn’t feel this way” or “I need to do something about this” you are trying to force too much. Relinquish control and you’ll get some immediate peace.

The more you try and force yourself to feel better the worse you’ll make the situation. Anytime you try and force situations and emotions to change you’ll create resistance. This will extend your period of feeling lost. You don’t want to do this.

When you’re feeling lost and lonely, accepting where you’re at probably doesn’t inspire you too much.

But the best thing to do is say to yourself: “Where I’m at right now in my life is the perfect place for me to be. Clarity is soon to come.” Do your best to chill out and be in a state of wonder. Wonder what’s next to emerge in your life. Start to be inquisitive. Try on ideas and possible future pathways in your mind like you’re shopping for clothes that fit.

What you resist persists. So surrender and get that this is jus at period you’re in right now. It will pass as all stages and emotions do.

Don’t make rash decisions

You might feel like making some radical changes when you feel lost and alone, such as: Break up with a partner, quit a job, move across the country. Don’t do anything major. Carry on with your regular day-to-day life as best you can. Distract yourself from your negative thoughts. Refocus on new projects and other people. Your sense of feeling lost will fade. Clarity will come. Wait it out.

Decisions need to be made only when you feel good. When you make decisions when you’re in a negative state you’re reacting to life versus taking an active approach to life. Decisions made when you feel bad will never turn out well.

Share authentically

You’re innate ability to share is a gift. Sharing is a bridge out of the darkness of your mind. It builds connections with others. It creates an access from you to the world. Sharing helps inspiration, hope, belief and love to flow to you.

There’s strength in sharing authentically about how you feel with people you trust and love, and sometimes even strangers. The catch is you won’t feel like sharing about the fact you’re feeling lost and lonely. Do it anyways! (You can still do something even if you don’t feel like it. It’s like getting out of bed on a Monday morning when you feel like sleeping in).

But if you’re brave enough to say to a few people “you know, I’ve been feeling a bit directionless at this point in my life”, you’ll likely get some immediate relief. You’ll likely see you’re not alone in your experience. You’ll see how people are willing to help. You may even get some inspiration. Perhaps a new opportunity will show up. Or, you’ll connect with someone on a deeper level.

Lastly, share authentically but also make sure you’re not sharing over and over with the same person or being super negative. Sharing about your struggle is different than bitching complaining. Don’t be an energy sucker for other people.

Take care of your physical health

Crappy food. No fresh air. No exercise. This will certainly NOT help.

Focus right now on taking care of your body, mind and spirit. Do what you need to do to feel good. Make sure you’re not overloading on sugar, caffeine, or fast food. Get outside. Move your body. Eat well. Nourish yourself.

This includes feeding your brain with positive information and knowledge. Listen to an audiobook that inspires you. Evaluate the content you take in daily. Weed out the crap.

Watch what you say!

Pay close attention to the language you use when you’re with others and what you say to yourself. Shift the jargon you use so it’s lighter and more objective. For instance, if you keep saying to yourself and others: “I feel like shit. I don’t know what to do”, a slight change to: “I haven’t been feeling to best. I’m seeking inspiration” will take the sting off of the way you feel and help you’re focus shift. It will help you remain open to new possibilities during an uncomfortable time.

When you speaking negatively you train your brain to carve out and speed up more negative pathways. So take control of your language, make some slight changes. It will help you to start thinking more objectively and to be more open-minded.

Feeling lonely? Go be around people

Loneliness is voluntary. When you feel alone, go be around people. Call someone. Go on the Internet and connect with someone. Simply putting yourself in an atmosphere of people — a shopping mall, a farmers market, a beach, a Starbucks — can help pull you out of your funk.

You also might have moments where you want to be alone. Go be in nature and think. Sit quietly. Take a bath and feel the warm water on your body. Do whatever you need to do to feel good.

Have more fun

Reconnect with your inner child. Play. Do something pointless and random that you like to do for no reason at all. Getting lost in fun will help you find yourself.

Try an adult coloring book.
Listen to a genre of music that’s new to you.
Borrow someone’s dog or cat for a weekend.
Eat food you never tried.
Seek out new people and experiences.
Do cartwheels in the park.
Go fishing.

Finally, here is the bottom line on feeling lost and lonely. It’s temporary, and therefore it will not last. You will find yourself and your passion again. You can give up feeling lonely and rejoin the world. Re-read this guide and apply the advice and you’ll get there sooner.

What am I doing with my life? 4 Steps to clarity

Posted on August 18, 2017March 23, 2018 by Kay Walker

When you find yourself asking the question: “What am I doing with my life?”, it’s a surefire sign you’re NOT HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU’RE CURRENTLY DOING. You’re not fulfilled with your current life and the direction your life is headed.

If you were happy and fully aligned with your current path, you wouldn’t question it.

So first, start by taking the hints you’re sending to yourself. You are the best one to know when what you’re doing with your life is misaligned with what you actually want.

No one is going to live your life for you. It’s your job to listen to your instincts and do what’s right for you even if other people don’t get it.

Now, the more important question to be asking is: What do you DO about it? Which is probably what brought you here.

The simplest answer is: TAKE ONE NEW ACTION.

New actions always equal new results. And from those new results you can assess whether you’re progressing in the direction you like. The only way to gain traction is to get out of your head and into the game of life.

The faster you get in action, the better. And I’ve made this simple as I’ve coached thousands of people stuck in the “what am I doing with my life” funk. Here’s the fastest way to break out of your funk and gain the clarity you need to move forward.

Not to mention, I’ve been in this funk myself a few times.

I used to be a very successful event planner with a swanky condo and a life that looked pretty fab. Inside I was dying. So unhappy. So disconnected from my true purpose.

And it took a lot of courage to change directions in spite of what my family and friends thought.

But on the other side of it all was FREEDOM. And true success. Because he’s the secret: When you follow what fulfills you, success is easily achieved.

So really, download this free audio training that you can do privately in front of your computer. It’ll give you some instant clarity and confidence (in as little as 10-15 minutes) so you can move forward.

Or read on for the four steps you can take today to get yourself feeling better fast.

First, you should know the underlying reasons you feel this way

You’re questioning your current life situation for one of two reasons:

You don’t know how to get what you want so the path forward is unclear. This has you waffle about what to do. Quite often you’ll then question if you even want what you thought you wanted in the first place!
You are in a career or relationship or environment that is authentically not connected to who you are and what you want to be and what to want to contribute to the world. The authentic you cries out.

**And that, the “What am I doing with my life” problem is a good one to have**

The best way to think of what’s going on is to consider that you have an internal elastic band built into you. When you get further away from what you want and value your elastic band stretches. This creates resistance. The “what am I doing with my life?” questioning is a sign resistance is occurring.

When you’re in line with what you deeply want your elastic band will move back into place and you’ll feel whole. You’ll feel at peace. So, now is your time to take stock of where you are going and to listen to your internal barometer. You can do that simply by downloading this free training session that’ll give you the clarity you need fast.

4 Steps -What to do to gain clarity and be confident about what to do next

Okay, so you’ve heard the signal, now what? You might find yourself seeking guidances friends or family, or a mentor, thoughts leader, life coach or therapist first, but here’s the thing: You’re the only that can figure it out!

This is YOUR life and you are the only one who can make the decisions you need to make. What you really need is clarity. And you can bet, if you’re like most people you’ll struggle and look for it externally.

But, what is more effective is doing some internal work.

Step 1: Empty your head of all the noise

When you start to notice that you have a lot of “what am I doing with my life?” thoughts you will immediately start asking yourself WHY. People are inquisitive by nature. It’s part of being human and you will naturally go to a place of :”Why do I feel this way?”And then you’ll start to ask: “What should I do?”.

Then, you’ll start entertaining a whole lot of thoughts about why and what. You’ll struggle with what to do next. And, you’ll look externally for answers to get clarity. This is a common trajectory. If you start doing this, you can bet you’ll get nowhere. You’ll find yourself going around in circles. At this point, some people start to make silly decisions that don’t move them in the right direction.

When there is a lot of mental chatter in your head, the clarity you seek remains elusive.

What you need is to get to place of nothing, so you can create something new. New ideas and new inspiration only emerges when you get your mind to a place of nothing. To have it be blank.

Really, take a moment to think about this. When you are feeling deep joy or happiness, what are you thinking about? Your mind is either blank or fixated on one object (like the blue sky outside). Mentally the space of your mind isn’t full, it’s empty. And in that space only then can new things show up.

Or think of it this way…An artist will have more ideas when confronted with a blank canvas versus looking at a painting they’ve been working with for months but haven’t gotten anywhere with. And sometimes just looking at a blank canvas will give them the inspiration of what they need to do with the old canvas. If they keep going back to the old canvas they will draw inspiration from what the filter in front of them without event noticing it.

Here’s a quick exercise you can download and do to gain that clarity your seeking.

How to get to nothing

So, when you are in a head space of “What should I do?“, just notice it, be aware of it, and then do whatever you need to do to stop thinking about anything.

Do something fun.

Do something physical, like go for a run or a walk.

Go be in nature.

Talk to other people and get out of your own head!

Go focus on a work project.

Listen to an audiobook.

Do whatever you need to do to forget everything you’ve been thinking about. That’s when the ideas will pour in.

This isn’t some woo-woo advice, it’s backed by neuroscience. You’re brain is always running on two modes of activity. When you’re not focused on any task or problem your brain goes into a mode of thinking called your Default Mode Network (DMN). This is where important connections take place and inspiration pours in.

So Step 1 is to do what you need to forget everything your thinking about. This might take trying a number of things. Go get lost in something. Get your mind to a blank canvas, and ideas will start to pop up. Or try this free audio visualization training now and the inspiration you need will come to you easily

Step 2: Listen and evaluate

Listen to the ideas that start to pop into your mind.

Capture them by writing them down somewhere. Really. Writing your ideas down is important. It helps you develop them and see them in reality not just in your head.

Start to play with your ideas.

A great way to evaluate ideas you have is to imagine yourself in the near future doing what you think you might want to do. Mentally try on different things. When you visualize (daydream in other words) it activates the same circuits as if you were physically take those actions.. You can use visualization start to see what actions inspires you and excites you and lights you up.

There will be ideas that speak to you. Ideas that you get stuck on. Ideas that make you feel awesome just thinking about them. Those are the ideas to build on.

Try this free visualization training session to mentally try on what your future “perfect day” might look like

Step 3: Create a smart strategy

Once you have some ideas of where you might like to steer your life, the changes you need to make and the actions you need to take will show up. They’ll start to become obvious to you.

At this point play with your options. Share your ideas with other people. Crowdsource! Ask them for their thoughts and advice. It’s what I call “table-ing your ideas.”

Here are some questions to get you thinking: What should I do with my life…

What’s the big picture outcome I have for my life?
Why is this important to me?
What can I do now to fulfill on this plan?
What current needs do I need to meet? (For instance you might want to completely change careers but you have bills to pay so you need to be able to manage these two things)
What are the obvious things I can do right away?

Zoom in from your big picture of what you want to achieve 3 months and 6 months out. Consider the actions you need to take to accomplish what you want.

The “What am I doing with my life” transformation exercise

One of the best ways to do this is:

Simply draw a horizontal line on a piece of paper
Write down what you want at the end of the line
At the start of the line, write down where you’re starting from now
Then, chart out the obvious actions you need to take

Pick the pathway that inspires you, the one that makes you feel confident and satisfied immediately, because you’ll be moving in the right direction but also fulfilling on what you need to do now to make a shift.

The question: “What should I do with my life?” will start to become answered.

Step 4: Take action

Once you know what to do, take one small action. This will give you relief. You’ll start to move your life in a new direction. You’ll begin to make progress versus staying stuck and feeling lost or hopeless.

Remember that action leads to progress and progress is good. Action will also create momentum. You’ll gain traction and keep moving forward.

As you progress remember that the thought “what am I do with my life?” is a signal. It’s a sign you need to stop, evaluate and gain clarity on what you need to do to proceed.

The science of happiness: 5 proven keys to happiness

Posted on November 9, 2016February 7, 2017 by Kay Walker

Want to know what the science of happiness shows as the secret to being happy all the time?

Here’s a hint: PERSONAL GROWTH.

If you’re learning and growing as a person every day you’ll feel great. It’s really that simple. Doesn’t matter where you start. Just keep taking action towards the things you want and acknowledge even the tiniest progress you make.

It’s why happiness key #1 below is incredibly important. It’s the mother of happy and it’s important for your overall levels of feeling fulfilled.

Happiness keys #2-#5 are all about the daily actions you need to take to keep your dopamine levels flowing.

Read on to learn what science of happiness says are the five keys to being happy. Incorporate them into your life and measure how you feel.

The science of happiness: 5 proven keys to being happy

Happiness key #1: Define your reason for living (you’re “raison d’etre“)

Step 1: Ask yourself what an inspired future looks like to you?

First, you must always be working towards a future that fulfills you. So, you need to constantly ask yourself what you want at different stages of your life. What does a future that inspires you look like?

Step 2: Take small actions every day towards that future

Take action daily towards that future you dream about. Because, how to be happy all the time comes down to one thing: PROGRESS.

If you’re progressing in little ways towards a life that inspires you, it will give you a deep satisfaction, one that you own and no one or thing can take away.

When the progress stops because you stop taking action or you get stuck in what to do, you’re happiness levels will dwindle.

Happiness comes down to you. It comes down to you answering the big life questions that only you can answer. And then you need to TAKE ACTION.

That’s how science says to achieve lasting happiness.

Now, there are also some simple daily rituals you should incorporate into your life to maintain a daily level of happiness. Because, sometimes when you’re taking action towards a life that inspires you it makes you long-term happy but it doesn’t keep your daily dopamine levels surging.

So, using the science of happiness, and take add these simple actions to your day:

Happiness key #2: Get in some aerobic activity

The higher intensity the aerobic activity the better. The science of happiness shows that aerobic activity gets your happy brain chemicals flowing. It also keeps your body in check from a health perspective and that’s important for your overall happiness.

Happiness key #3: Connect with people

These days most of us are sitting at computers and connecting with people online. That’s not the same as connecting with people in person.

Scientists say that being with people has the same chemical effect as taking a drug like cocaine. But being with people is a much better way to get that dopamine flowing. Spend time around people that make you feel good each day.

Happiness key #4: Contribute

This can be as simple as making your partner a sandwich. Making a difference for another person or a group of people is the greatest happiness booster. Little things make the difference.

Happiness key #5: Be grateful

It’s the best way to turn a bad mood into a good one and it’s easy. Close your eyes and visualize the little things you’re grateful for. Alternatively, you can write them down. Being grateful heightens the energetic frequency your body emits.

And, it’s easy to be grateful even when you don’t feel particularly good. If you are breathing and your heart is ticking you’ve got something to be grateful for.

Being happy is up to you. If you take the consistent actions to be happy even if your thoughts aren’t there, they will follow suit.

In the end, life is to be enjoyed. Don’t waste your precious time feeling anything but good about who you are and what you’re up to achieve. And, if you need a structure to support you join Awesome Life Club for free tools to build the life of your dreams.